Tuesday, April 10, 2012

A Promiscuous Man

The word promiscuous is defined as "having casual sexual relations frequently with different partners"; "to be indiscriminate in the choice of sexual partners" or "to indulge in casual and indiscriminate sexual relationships".

I was recently referred to as a promiscuous man in a comment bye a reader of this blog. This woman obviously feels there is something wrong with my demeanor, what I choose to write about on my blog or my treatment of her and her female friends or cousins (whatever they may be - I never really cared much about them or their relationship at all).

The comment shook, hurt and injured me in a way I cannot fully describe, and deeper than I thought at first. I feel that I and the love I always had and still have for Ars has been contaminated by that vile remark.That this is an insult upon the injury previously caused by the innuendos, which another cousin made, that Ars was one of my alts.

Throughout the more that two years that my Ars and I were together I do not know of any instance where either of us would have been unfaithful or otherwise strayed from our relationship to one another. Neither do I know of any occasion during the two years that have passed since his death that I have even been tempted or thought of having sexual relations with anyone in either first or SecondLife (other than myself from time to time on an irregular basis).

I know that they only wish to hurt me and my love for my Ars, but I really cannot understand how our love can cause such anger and resentment with then to repeatedly warrant these attacks. OK I may be a cry-baby that lingers on  too long about something that they might have gotten over faster and perhaps better, but that is not a reason to force their timetable of "correct grief" onto me. I would wish they got out from under my shoes and emigrated to some hell hole like InWorldz or Osgrid, or even if they did not do that, that they stayed out of my way sand did not need to comment about me or interact with me.

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  1. Just dismiss these people as the children that they are. They do this because they are afraid of the dark.

    Grief has it's own path to travel and there are no shortcuts. It takes as much time as it takes.

    Be well on your journey.

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    1. I thank you for that kind advice and those soothing words! I will do my best to follow your advice, despite my urge to kick and scream and yell in situations like these.

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  2. Keep to the High Ground Buddy - your path. Hugs =^^=
    Sarge

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    1. I feel safe with you around, Sarge! At ease now my good man ;)

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  3. As I told you before, Miss "Heimskur Tík" and her Klíka af Nornir are simply not worth the attention you give to them. Some people crave attention, and bad attention is attention nonetheless.
    Because you wear your heart on your sleeve, they know exactly which buttons to push to get a response. Of course it hurts when anyone belittles your relationship with Ars. That is exactly why they do it. Try not to take the bait and starve them of the attention they so crave and they will scurry to their next victim like the rats they are.

    As Anonymous before said, grief has it's own path and is never the same. So follow your own path to wherever it will take you. But don't forget to smile along the way.

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  4. Ohhh Butch, you constantly impress me with your knowledge of foreign languages - and your wisdom!

    I will do my best to follow the good advice I am getting from you and others, but it is usually not in my nature to look the other way... however I will try! ;)

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  5. You choose to translate my name to english and I translated yours to english.
    If you take that personally it´s your choise.
    I will say we are even.
    Please continue to feed your group of supporters with tales of demonic women that are so difficult for big strong men to carry out.
    Your fairytales are approaching harassment and slander

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    1. I made a direct translation of the name you have chosen to call yourself and the result Sex Toy came up as the only possible translation in six (6) different languages.

      I was very surprised that a person like yourself, who states she is against male domination and for gender equality, would ever wish to choose a name like the one you did.

      Your translation of my name doesn't come up as possible translations. However, "horny man" is a possible translation (in a transferred and symbolic meaning) but, at least in my mind, there is a world of difference between being horny and being promiscuous.

      Now please go away, troll, and stay away!

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  6. Bock that women and her sk cousins (alts all of them if you ask me)are tree person that loves drama in every form, shape and so on.

    Dont listen to that evil talk. That little I know you in the beginning of my sl when I was a newbie I know you are faitful to you Ars always and forever. And dont listen to bored people that just want to start drama were ever the go. Hugs Helene Dragoone

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    1. Hugs Helene! ;)

      Concerning your suspicion that all three of them are alts, I hasten to add that we cannot know that for sure so we really should not speculate.

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    2. I speculate that all i like. They are to simular to not be the same person behind the avi. And I have told all three of them that alredy. Also I think that it is a man behind them. One and same behind all. That is my belive. You and others dont have to think that but I do and that is nothing I hind. Hugs again from Helene.

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  7. Its sad to see you sad my friend:( lets bye them all a one way ticket to ST Petersburg..

    Huggs Zigga

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    1. Welcome home, Ziga dearest, I hope you had a wonderful visit with Em. We have all missed you both a lot!

      I am sure they will find the atmosphere in Saint Petersburg to their liking ;)

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