Wednesday, January 28, 2015

Dad Dies

I was at a conference in Stockholm today when I was reached by the sudden and unexpected news that my father had passed away.

Although dad was 84 years old, he had no known major health issues that could cause his death and he had all senses intact. However, his knees were worn out so that he had had difficulties lately with standing, rising and walking.

This morning he had been to the toilet and got stuck sitting there because he couldn't raise himself up, his legs would not carry him. The home helpers who were there couldn't help him either, so they called an ambulance for assistance in getting him off the toilet and into a  chair.

When the ambulancemen arrived and started helping him dad joked with them about the slightly embarrassing situation they found him in, which was rather typical of him.

As the ambulancemen started to help dad he suddenly went limp and pale. The ambulancemen noticed at once and put him on the floor to perform CPR. They managed to get his heart beating, but it stopped again while he was being transported to the ER. The staff at the hospital also managed to start it once more, but it stopped soon after that.
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I am in a daze right now and sort of cut-off from my emotions. It all happened so out-of-the-blue. We have strong hearts in my paternal family and my father never had any sign of troubles with his heart.

My father leaves behind his loving family consisting of his wife of 65 years, a daughter and a son, grandchildren, great grandchildren, a sister and two brothers.

He will always be remembered for his love and care of his family, kindness and good sense of humor.
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P.S. I thought that writing about this would provoke me to feel that it actually has happened and that I would finally be able to handle it in an appropriate way (which is sometimes the case), but no such luck. I still cannot fell anything at all...

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  1. So very sorry for your loss.

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  2. I am so sorry and I know the feeling when it happens. When the sadness and anger and depression come and go you will survive this loss with great, good memories of all the great stuff with your dad. Remember the fun stuff and the good memories and he is now watching over you as we both talked about before. xxxxxxx

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    1. I am so confused right now, sweet Ziggy, because I don't feel shit. Nothing at all, Why is that, he was the most important man in my life and loved me no matter what...?

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  3. So sorry to hear the news Bock. It's perfectly normal to feel numb and .. well, just not feel much at all at this stage. It's like shock really. There will be so many things to deal with in the next few days, your family will need you and you will need them. Give yourself time, feelings will resolve themselves in their own good time. My thoughts and with you, many hugs xxx

    (oh, it's Eagle Wilder from Second Life by the way)

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  4. To feel loss of feelings is part of the shock dear buddy. It protects you till you can handle it som ekind of way. Big hug!

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  5. Big hugs to you Bock. I am sorry for your loss but still glad for you to read that your father was a humorous, caring and spiritually intact man until the fast end. That will be a comfort for you later. Thank you for sharing your beautiful words about your father and his passing.

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  6. Heartfelt condolances my friend.
    Hugs - and it will come. It is a shock. I know
    Take your time

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  7. My deepest sympathies to you and your family, my dear friend. Be patient with yourself. Keep in mind that everyone experiences grief in their own way and at their own pace. XO

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  8. A big hug to you Bock! I know how much your father meant to you and your family and I feel with you in your loss. There are no right or wrong in a sad but let it come at the pace that it will. Take care of yourself and your family. We will be here for you.

    Love from Millimina!

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  9. My sincere condolences on the loss of your dad dearest Bockilein. A big warm hug from Belgium <3

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  10. Thank you all for your kind thoughts and considerations, my sweet friends.

    Big hugs to all of you!

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  11. so sorry to hear about your loss Bock - hugs

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  12. I am so sorry for your loss Bock! You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers! Hugs !

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  13. I just found out Bock -- and really want to offer my sympathies to you. Your father sounds like a great dad, and I want to offer my condolences. Thinking of you right now.

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  14. I am very sad dear Bock, my sincer condolences my friend. I am with u right now.

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  15. Hate to hear that you lost your Father. I have been through this with both parents. Each of them it was expected. I lived in Fla when my Dad passed sooner than expected and had the long drive back to Ohio. A lot of time to think on that trip. Now your memories of your Father become very special. My thoughts are with you during this sad time

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  16. Thank you, dear friends, for all your sweet thoughts and concerns! Big hugs!

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    1. Thanks Jordyn! I am happy to see you back again ;)

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