Eddi Answers Eddi on Virtual Breakups

My friend and mentor Eddi Haskell recently broke up from a four year long relationship with Jago Constantine. In a mini-series of two blog posts Eddi has found the strength to tackle the problem of lost love and breakups in virtual reality.

Eddi answers

Eddi asks

In the first part Eddi, the broken hearted, yesterday wrote a letter to his own advice column "Ask Eddi" in which he described what had been, what had happened and his feelings and thoughts about it.

In the second part published today, Eddi, the advisor, answers and gives advice that may help some of you.

The posts are a must read for anyone who has ever been in love in SecondLife.

Eddi had me in tears in both posts. Although I believe we each have to find our own time frame I do find the suggestions Eddi gives are helpful.

"Ask Eddi"; Part 1:A letter I am writing to myself asking for some sage advice on how to handle my recent break-up with Jago

Ask Eddi; Part 2: A letter I am writing to myself asking for some sage advice on how to handle my recent break-up with Jago

Jago´s & Eddi´s Third Anniversary Party

After the long seminar with Jessica Lyon it was great to know I had a party waiting to celebrate my friends Jago Constantine and Eddi Haskell on their third anniversary as partners in SecondLife. DJ Insyx supplied the music as a real pro.

It was a fun party with both old timers like myself. Eddi, Jago and Jordyn Carnell and a some almost noobs and all the ages in between. Oh and dogs, dogs, dogs everywhere - even a lesbian bitch dog named Betsy that kept hitting on missK all evening.

Enough talk, here are the tell-all pictures. For even more pictures visit Eddi Haskell´s Second Life Photos from Our Third Anniversary Party Today

The happy couple, Jago and Eddi

We were all relieved that mtd wore a sock on it

Yours truly and sexy missK making some moves

Avacar, Esme and Cambieul grooving

Congratulations to Eddi & Jago

Join the party to celebrate Eddi Haskell´s and Jago Constantine´s  third anniversary as partners in SecondLife!

The happy couple invites you all to come and to bring your friends along.

Ohh What a Night..

Starting of with the opening of Iendi´s and Apollon´s OneLove (with some of the hottest women in SecondLife) and ending with Eddi´s and Jago´s second anniversary party (with some of SecondLife´s hottest men). I danced, danced and danced...

Well I know I sat through the wonderful show that junivers Stockholm and his team of beautiful women gave us together with the firemasters extraordinaire Jannne Janus and Ambrooshia DeCuir, but that was not for long.

It was during the amazing light show that I got this picture from Lelle Kidd ... proving once again that I don´t always look as hot and cute as I think I do....

But I felt a little better when I returned his favor with this snapshot of him.

Which goes to prove that you only know what you see on your own screen, others may see it in a completely different way!

All in all, I had a great time last night. Thanks everyone for making it heavenly! 

"I could have danced all night!
I could have danced all night!
And still have begged for more.
I could have spread my wings
And done a thousand things I've never done before.
I'll never know 

What made it so exciting.
Why all at once my heart took flight.
I only know when he
Began to dance with me.
I could have danced, danced danced all night!"  

P.S. HELL YEAH! I did try out dancing on the bar at the new Grenouille Inn, and I can attest to the fact that it is quite safe!

The Best Layed Plans

Grrrrr my Mahjong weekend just got cancelled due to the weather situation in the southwestern parts of Scania.

Snow and winds are usually a bad combination for my neck of the woods, because all the snow just piles up on the roads.

So Coffee & Pajamas with Elfay Pinkdot and OneLove here I come!

And Eddi and Jago, you guys better set out my plate again because it seems I am coming after all. (I am not quite sure what Emily Post would say about this, but then again I am a northern barbarian...)

To Eddi & Jago

My friends Eddi Haskell and Jago Constantine celebrate their second wedding anniversary in SecondLife today!

Just a warning to you guys, I am told that scientists have discovered that the longer people stay together, the more they begin to look alike. So you better start putting name tags in your underwear!

Happy Wedding Anniversary!

I am so sorry I cannot come to your celebration but I hope you have a great party.

To All Lovers in SecondLife

To find love is great, wherever you find it cherish it always!

This song I dedicate to those who have had the joy of finding it in SecondLife
Iendi & Apollon, Vampi & sirhc, Eddi & Jago, Guyke & Janttu, Svessa &  Frost, Erestor & Gwennyfair, Bara & Nickel, Ziga & Emarald, Jeb & Shayne, Tymus & Truck, Bora & Lucky, Niven & Ferdy, Chade & Ronan and many. many more (the names keep on coming to me but I stop here and hope no one feels left out).

I think of Ars and thank SecondLife for my time with him.

Please feel free to complete my list with your and your loves name in the comments!

DJ Ars at Eddi´s Gallery

"Photographer Eddi Haskell and his partner Jago Constantine celebrated their first anniversary on November 20, 2009 at Eddi's Gallery in Second Life. Eddi was showing his photography of the new virtual world of Blue Mars at the time. This video by Cuno Fluno shows some really hot people dancing to the music of Ars Northmead while celebrating Eddi and Jago's anniversary."

I struck gold today when I was googling my Ars name this video came up. WoooT!! You can even see my sweety dancing in it, he is the sexy stud in a white suit and wearing a hat.

I still remember that day well, how Ars prepared for the set and how we decided on what he should wear, well mostly Ars of course...but I had my five cents in.

It is strange really. Some days I am totally filled with memories of my Ars and our days together! Other days it feels as if I am forgetting even what his sexy voice and his laugh - his wonderful catchy laugh - sounded like, and that makes me so sad. I wish I had a recording of his voice and laughter now to help me remember all the time.

How to be alone - Tanya Davis

If you are at first lonely, be patient. If you’ve not been alone much, or if when you were, you weren’t okay with it, then just wait. You’ll find it’s fine to be alone once you’re embracing it.


We could start with the acceptable places, the bathroom, the coffee shop, the library, where you can stall and read the paper, where you can get your caffeine fix and sit and stay there. Where you can browse the stacks and smell the books; you’re not supposed to talk much anyway so it’s safe there.


There´s also the gym, if you’re shy, you can hang out with yourself and mirrors, you can put headphones in. Then there’s public transportation, because we all gotta go places. And there’s prayer and mediation, no one will think less if your hanging with your breath seeking peace and salvation.


Start simple. Things you may have previously avoided based on your "avoid being alone" principles. The lunch counter, where you will be surrounded by “chow downers”, employees that only have an hour and their spouses work across town, and so they, like you, will be alone. Resist the urge to hang out with your cell phone.


When you are comfortable with “eat lunch and run”, take yourself out for dinner; a restaurant with linen and silverware. You’re no less intriguing a person when you´re eating solo desert and cleaning the whip cream from the dish with your finger. In fact, some people at full tables will wish they were where you were. Go to the movies. Where it’s dark and soothing, alone in your seat amidst a fleeting community.


And then take yourself out dancing, to a club where no one knows you, stand on the outside of the floor until the lights convince you more and more and the music shows you. Dance like no one’s watching because they’re probably not. And if they are, assume it is with best in human intentions. The way bodies move genuinely to beats, is after-all, gorgeous and affecting. Dance until you’re sweating. And beads of perspiration remind you of life’s best things. Down your back, like a book of blessings.


Go to the woods alone, and the trees and squirrels will watch for you. Go to an unfamiliar city, roam the streets, there are always statues to talk to, and benches made for sitting gives strangers a shared existence if only for a minute, and these moments can be so uplifting and the conversation you get in by sitting alone on benches, might of never happened had you not been there by yourself.


Society is afraid of alone though. Like lonely hearts are wasting away in basements. Like people must have problems if after awhile nobody is dating them. But lonely is a freedom that breathes easy and weightless, and lonely is healing if you make it. You could stand swathed by groups and mobs or hold hands with your partner, look both further and farther in the endless quest for company.


But no one´s in your head. And by the time you translate your thoughts some essence of them may be lost or perhaps it is just kept. Perhaps in the interest of loving oneself, perhaps all those “sappy slogans” from pre-school over to high school´s groaning, we’re tokens for holding the lonely at bay. Cause if you’re happy in your head, then solitude is blessed, and alone is okay.


It’s okay if no one believes like you, all experience is unique, no one has the same synapses, can’t think like you, for this be relieved, keeps things interesting, life’s magic things in reach, and it doesn’t mean you aren’t connected, and the community is not present, just take the perspective you get from being one person in one head and feel the effects of it.


Take silence and respect it. If you have an art that needs a practice, stop neglecting it, if your family doesn’t get you or a religious sect is not meant for you, don’t obsess about it. You could be in an instant surrounded if you need it. If your heart is bleeding, make the best of it. There is heat in freezing, be a testament.
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This is a beautiful and touching video poem by Tanya Davis that I found through one of Jago Constantine´s blogs when I was blogsurfing this morning.