I am not involved in the BDSM scene but have for completely different reasons negotiated a safeword or a code word with someone. The agreed upon word is "Orange" and is to be used when either of us wishes a certain behaviour to cease or all communication to stop immediately until the following day.
As I am a forgetful person, I am posting it here for future reference so I can find it when I need it. Otherwise I may end up shouting "Indigo", "Crimson", "Aquamarine" or something else in a futile attempt to bring an end to something.
As a born and bred New Yorker the entire concept of safe words is beyond me. However, I am not into S and M either (unless it means Standing and Modeling which Ryce loves to do on occasion).
ReplyDeleteA safe word for a New Yorker might be something like this, exclaimed at about 200 decibels so it can be heard on any running subway car:
HEY CREEP. WHAT DO YOU NOT UNDERSTAND? I TOLD YOU THE WORD TO STOP WAS ORANGE. STOP NOW OR I CALL MY COUSIN VITO WHEN YOU UNTIE ME AND TELL HIM TO MURDER YOU AND THAT CREEPY DOG OF YOURS WHO IS ON TOP OF ME RIGHT NOW. GET IT?
Now, as a New Yorker who is somewhat Woody-Allenish at times, I do have a safe word as it applies in relations with my mother. The word is "guilt". As soon as that word is inserted into a conversation the action one wish stopped is stopped. For example, "Mom, why are you giving me so much guilt? Can't you see how it has messed me up already? Please stop giving me guilt".
Works every time!