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#Bock3000DaysInSL

There is reason to celebrate today, because it's my 3,000th day in SecondLife!

Bock on May 12, 2007, dancing alone at Bad Boy's Plaza

Who would've thought that fateful Monday more than eight years ago that I would still be here so very many years later?

I came out of inquisitiveness, only intending to check out what all the rave was about and why Sweden was opening it's first virtual embassy here. I spent my first weeks on Arrival Island, or whatever the place was called, trying to get my ugly noob avatar to look better so that I was fit to be seen. I'm gay after all, you have to at least try to look your best at any given moment...

As this was back in the day before Linden Lab provided us with the beautiful starter avatars and I lacked the necessary talent I finally gave up and ventured out into the world.

The first thing I looked for when I decided to venture away from Arrival Island, was anything related to Sweden, the second thing was anything to do with sex, preferably the gay variety. The Swedes ignored me completely, while the gays used me for mutual sexual gratification. Within an hour of leaving Arrival Island I was equipped with 10-15 dicks of various sorts, one of which took me far into the skies when I attached it.

After having used SecondLife for quick satisfaction and pixel-sex for a month or so I actually started talking to people before, during and/or after the quickies. My visits started to get longer and I started to make acquaintances, well more like fuck buddies but anyway...

Someone took pity on me and showed me where and how I could get my avatar to look better and where I could meet people for more than sex. I was introduced to Boots Gay Beach and the Devil Inside club (the "only" gay club to be for a while before it was destroyed by drama). I met good people, kind people and of course my share of assholes. I fell in love with Ars, we moved in together and built a life and family together at Southern Charm. Ars died and I seriously considered dropping out of SL, but then there was Southern Charm. I just couldn't leave it, everything there was a reminder of him and I did not want to lose it.

A little before Ars passed away I had reached out to the Swedish community again, with better luck this time. My countrymen and my SecondLife family were extremely supportive throughout my whole grieving process and involved me with community events, with parties and with people etc, etc. And my saga continues from there with a new love, new friends and new involvements and obligations.

So I came to SecondLife out of curiosity, I returned for the sex and continued for the the people, all the wonderful people I have met here.

All in all, it has been an amazing experience and I don't regret it for a second. I now know I'm going to stay here until Linden Lab pulls the plug in San Francisco, hopefully with a new and improved world waiting for me, my love, my family and my friends.

Happy #Bock3000DaysInSL to you all - and may we have many, many more!

A Special Message from Rico Bluestar

"Dear Friends and Family of Avacar,

I wish to extend my heartfelt thanks to all of you for your support and kind words over the past two weeks since Avacar passed away. It has been a hard time for myself, as I am sure it must have been for many of you.

I want you all to know how much your sympathy and support, and hearing your fond thoughts about Avacar, have meant to me as Avacar’s partner. Knowing that Avacar touched and was loved by so many of you has been of enormous comfort to myself and Avacar’s immediate Second Life family. They have helped all of us get through a very difficult time.

I especially want to thank Evan and Izzy Greymist, Parvin, MissBigRed, Phoebe, Ryce, Ralphy, Joe and Asharr for helping to plan and speaking at Avacar’s truly incomparable memorial service last Saturday. I was so pleased that well over 100 of you attended the event, and that those who could not come followed coverage on blogs and on websites.

About the memorial service itself, it has come to my attention that a few rumors are floating around about who was or was not invited to the event, and the conduct of certain people at the event. Nothing can be further from the truth. Everyone who knew Avacar was invited, and your comments at the event were wonderful.

I know Avacar is smiling knowing that so many cared about him and that he will be missed dearly.

Thank you once again for being such good friends, and please have a great holiday season,

My best Regards,
Rico"

This post is a reblogg of Eddi & Ryce's Second Life: A Special Message From Rico to All Of Avacar Bluestar's Friends and Family

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I must add that I am greatly saddened by the fact that someone, who claims to be a friend of Avacar's, would use this sorrowful occasion to spread lies, rumors and hateful drama. 

A Unilateral Action

Today I have been in SecondLife 2,667 days or, expressed in another way, 7 years 2 months and 18 days.

I would like to think that I have friendly relations with most of the people I have encountered during those many years, some are still close, others I meet sporadically but for various reasons our paths have mostly parted, some have more or less or altogether left SecondLife and some I don't have contact with even if they are still around. But those that we are friends with or have amicable relations with are never the problem, are they?

The relationships that drain my energy, and that I have been thinking much about the last two weeks, are the failed ones. Those relationships that have to some degree turned into open or concealed enmity. I find that it weighs down on me and makes me weary to keep track of the perceived wrongdoings and insults. It has also to some degree turned into an unwanted bitterness on my part that I do not at all care for.

So today I am going to clean the slate by unilaterally forgiving those I feel have wronged me - or someone I love - intentionally or through carelessness, so that I thereby in time can forget the perceived insults and abuses. I am also asking those whom I know feel that I have wronged them for forgiveness. I am going to unblock all those that have previously been blocked from Instant Messaging me in-world or from entering my home sim or on social media sites.

I know that this action will most likely be labeled as "drama" by some, but I don't care one iota because I am doing it for my own sake not anyone else's. My forgiveness is in no manner dependent on the their willingness to forgive me.

As I do not believe a sweeping apology is enough I am going to name each and every one of those I believe deserve my forgiveness and whose forgiveness I need for my words and actions in the past. I will not go into my reasons for feeling hurt by those named, except in one particular case.

I forgive you, Ars Northmead, for dying and leaving me alone and heartbroken for such a long time. I also ask your forgiveness for resenting you for something you could not help. You know I love you, babe, and I know you loved me. Forgiving you was and is always easy.

I forgive you, Andrey Messmer (a. k. a. D R E Y Messmer), and ask for your forgiveness.

I forgive you, Martial Eisenhart, and ask for your forgiveness.

I forgive you, Butch Horton, and ask for your forgiveness.

I forgive you, Vanadis Falconer, and ask for your forgiveness.

I forgive you, Sjöfn Stoneshield, and ask for your forgiveness.

I forgive you, Kynlif Leikfang, and ask for your forgiveness.

I forgive you, Loo Berensohn, and ask for your forgiveness.

I forgive you, PetGirl Bergman (a.k.a. Tina Dahl), and ask for your forgiveness.

I forgive you, Alessia Kranfel (a.k.a. Vesper Kling and Mera Kranfel) and ask for your forgiveness.

Lastly I forgive myself.
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The deed is done and now the rest of my life can start afresh. It is a big relief! 

Poll Results: Most Overused Word

The results of the poll are in and are clear as you can see.

The real thriller was for a while if "Lag" or "Drama" would win, but in the final hours "Drama" pulled away and won with a mere three votes.

So I am happy to announce that "Drama" is the most overused word in SecondLife according to the readers of Bock in SecondLife.

Lets make a deal and promise each other to use the ugly word less in the future!

Open Letter to A Well Meaning Woman

My son Guyke will undoubtedly tell me, that writing this post is creating drama, but as I have told him in my opinion people who say that others are taking part in drama are often not willing to take a position on an issue or unwilling to declare their opinion in public. They instead accuse those who are willing and dare to do so of creating drama.

After logging off from SecondLife tonight I was tired and going to bed but wanted to check the latest updates on my blog list.

I happened to notice the following title on one of the "recent posts" on a blogroll, it read (translated to English and to English/American customs): "Second Pride Festival. Isn't That Like Brussel Sprouts at the Christmas Dinner Table?"

The post was on a Swedish SecondLife blog that I haven't been reading for several years, due to the fact that the blog owner (on this blog unlovingly referred to as "the mudslinger" ) made a personal attack on me by challenging whether my late partner Ars Northmead has ever existed.

The writer of this post was however not the mudslinger herself, but one of her sisters, cousins, friends, whatever, a woman with a more reputable image.

As far as I am aware, neither the writer, nor the blog has any connection or affiliation whatsoever to or with any LGBTQ person, organisation or community, be it in first life or SecondLife. This fact however in no way daunts the writer of the blog post from expressing her opinions on when and where the LGBTQ  community as a whole and worldwide should celebrate Pride and how they should do it to appear less gimmicky. 

The writer utilises the interesting and insidious technique of phrasing all her statements as questions, which makes it completely impossible to hold them against her. I will however say this to her in an open letter:

My dear madam,

Your views on when, where and how we should celebrate our Pride, however well meaning they may be - and I must stress that I see them as well meaning - are from a purely heteronormative perspective and are, in my most humble opinion, lopsided, inaccurate, uniformed and/or false.

The fact of the matter is that every day, in every nation (yes, even in Sweden), in the virtual worlds and cyberspace and in every walk of life LGBTQ persons are verbally and emotionally harassed, underpaid compared to their straight (or closeted) equals, less likely to be promoted compared to their straight (or closeted) equals, emotionally, physically and mentally abused, violated, maimed and killed. 

We will continue to celebrate Pride as we ourselves see fit, even if you should happen to disagree and consider, it more of a stunt or gimmicky. We do this to come together to rejoice over our past victories, for mutual support and to support our brothers and sisters in less democratic countries where they are forbidden to express their homosexuality in private as well as in  public under the risk of fines, imprisonment or death penalty, where they are also forbidden to demonstrate their pride in any way, shape or form. And we will continue to do so as long as we see it as necessary and fitting.

If you should wish to see and experience what Second Pride is all about, please let me inform you that the festival has always been open for everyone to visit and take part in. Alas the festival for 2013 was concluded a week ago but I would be happy to accompany you and show you around the exhibitions and the parties at next years Second Pride Festival.

Yours kindly,

Bock McMillan

P.S. I have made the following list on the present status of samesex marriages worldwide to correct the false facts you give in your post. The information is readily available for everyone on Wikipedia. (I have updated the information on California according to recent developments)

As of May 2013 the following thirteen countries have legalized same-sex marriages

1. Argentina, 
2. Belgium, 
3. Brazil, 
4. Canada, 
5. Denmark,
6. France, 
7. Iceland, 
8. The Netherlands,
9. Norway,
10. Portugal, 
11. Spain, 
12. South Africa and 
13. Sweden

In August 2013 the following two countries will also legalize same-sex marriages (laws have already been enacted that that will come into force at that time)

1. Uruguay and 
2. New Zealand

As of May 2013 several sub-national jurisdictions in the following countries have legalized same-sex marriages

1. parts of Mexico and 
2. parts of the United States.

As of June 26, 2013, the following sub-national jurisdictions (states) of the United States have legalized same-sex marriages

1. California.
2. Colorado, 
3. Iowa
4. Maine
5. Maryland, 
6. Massachusetts, 
7. New Hampshire, 
8. New York, 
9. Vermont and 
10. Washington

In the following countries bills allowing legal recognition of same-sex marriage have been proposed, are pending, or have passed at least one legislative house in

1. Andorra, 
2. England and Wales, 
3. Finland, 
4. Germany, 
5. Ireland, 
6. Luxembourg, 
7. Nepal, 
8. Scotland and 
9. Taiwan 

In the following sub-national jurisdictions bills allowing legal recognition of same-sex marriage have been proposed, are pending, or have passed at least one legislative house

1. parts of Australia, 
2. parts of Mexico and 
3. parts of the United States.

My Crazy Summer Addiction

I don´t watch TV that much and I take great care to avoid reality shows, but this summer I got stuck on a stupid reality show about these crazy and wealthy women in Beverly Hills.

Kyle Richards, Adrienne Maloof, Lisa Vanderpump , Taylor Armstrong , Camille Donatacci and Kim Richards 

The five women in "The Real Housewives of Beverly Hills" on their own create more drama among themselves and in their social circles than the whole of Swedish SecondLife. Of course part of it is probably due to imaginative editing by the director and the production team, but still...

I have heard that the first step to being cured of an addiction is to admit you have one. Once I start working again on Monday I will not have the opportunity to watch daytime television again so the rest should work itself out smoothly. Keep your fingers crossed.

The Accidental Drama Queen (Updated)

"Wherein this avatar´s fates, adventures and experiences in, his thoughts and feelings about and his reactions to his first and second life are depicted with written messages, images and other visual tools."

That blog description has been at the top of Bock in SecondLife from the beginning, at first in Swedish and later translated to English. In spite of that, I have on more than one occasion been accused of being a "drama queen", i.e. (according to the Urban Dictionary) "an overly dramatic person" or "someone who turns something unimportant into a major deal. Someone who blows things way out of proportion when ever the chance is given", for doing exactly what I promise to do namely express my reactions, feelings and thoughts on things that happen to me or move me in some way.

Giving me that epithet is of course an easy and accessible resort for anyone who wishes to disparage or belittle me or what I have to say.

My intentions with blogging have from the start been to give a truthful account of what happens to me, in SecondLife and first life. I am always aware of the fact that another witness to the same events can have a completely different view on the matter, but it is not my responsibility to take an objective approach and I have never claimed to be an objective onlooker. 

What you get on this blog is my personal and unique take, if it upsets you it is your problem and not mine. However, that being said, I have always been prepared to accept that not everyone shares my perspective and have been ready to listen to their version of "the truth or what actually happened".

I don´t take shit from anyone and it is not in my nature to look away or walk away from matters that upset me. I will offer my thoughts and advice freely and lavishly, it is up to the receiver if they wish to accept it.

I realize that you may wonder what brought on this diatribe and I have decided to share it with you. Yesterday I received two e-mails from "the other person" that I mention in my post Misplaced Loyalty. In the first e-mail he/she claimed utter incomprehension to my reaction for "that trifling action" she/he had taken (which only showed that he/she had not read or understood what I had tried to tell him/her because I had been careful to clearly outline my views on the matter).

In the second e-mail he/she had willfully misinterpreted and taken out of context a part of a sentence from my first e-mail to him/her in the matter. I had told him/her that I did not know what I was going to do about our relationship in the future but would decide when I had cooled down. Now he/she had clipped out "I do not know what I will do" and asked me if this was a cry for help, i.e. suggesting that I had threatened committing suicide. 

Let me tell you all, I am in a stable emotional and mental frame of mind. I have never had any suicidal tendencies, although I do understand that some people at times can find themselves in a desperate situation where they do not see any another option. If I should ever get close to that point it will not be over something trivial.

Of course I could always write a blog along these lines:
"Day1. I woke up after a good nights sleep. Coffee and ham sandwiches for breakfast. Went to work. Came home from work and logged in to SecondLife. Logged out and went to bed.
Day 2. Woke up after a good nights sleep. Coffee and cheese sandwiches for breakfast. Went to work. Came home from work and logged in to SecondLife. Logged out and went to bed. Etc., etc., etc." 

But that is nothing I like reading and would not enjoy writing either.

In conclusion, I would like to say that I do not try to create drama or thrive on it (rather it makes me uncomfortable), but when drama seeks me out I will not back away from it. In my mind, life is interesting and life is drama but I am no drama queen as such, even if I  may admit to sometimes being an "accidental drama queen".

Update
I have received complaints via e-mail from "the other person" that he/she doesn't completely agree with my depiction of what happened and wishes me to correct it. 

My response to him/her was that I have given a complete and accurate account of what has happened but that he/she is welcome to leave his/her version in the comments (even anonymously if he/she wished) and that I have no interest or intention whatsoever of discussing my blogposts with him/her via e-mail.

She Made Me Proud

Art by John Bauer

This evening I listened to a  podcast that I have had difficulty listening to before. but after a long time of fiddling around with the settings of the firewall. I finally got it to work just before the program I wanted to listen to started.

The program was of course "Jändi är arg" (Iendi is angry) on Iendi´s Transistor. I have followed the origins of the discussions that lead up to the radio program, but have not really taken part much.

Iendi was - as always - calm, cool and collected throughout the radio show, however angry she claims to have been it did not shine through in the least during the program. She answered all the personal attacks on her by trolls and drama queens of both sexes and big-busted and small-minded valkyrias.

I am proud to have Iendi Laville as my fiend! Never take their shit to heart, my darling ex-missus for a day!

Should SecondLife be "Pleasantville"?

If you haven't seen or heard about the film "Pleasantville" (url) please read up before continuing.

First of all let me make it completely clear that I am not a behavioral scientist or anything like that. I have, however, in my line of work as a lawyer in first life, dealt with other peoples conflicts all my professional life. And I have had a few in my own personal life too.

I have also been taught by my parents, my community and my schools, to speak up and take a stand if and when I encountered anything I did not agree with. To state my case and share my opinions and arguments.

Taking a stand and showing your position by necessity creates a conflict. In SecondLife every sign of conflict is dismissed and belittled as "drama" and that is viewed as a bad thing.

Especially since I started blogging about my first and second life I have met the attitude "Can´t we always be friends all the time, everyone?". If and when a conflict showed signs of brewing or was becoming apparent I have been told by close friends and people I love and respect, "walk away", "ignore it" or "don´t acknowledge it" or something of that sort.

In my not so humble opinion conflict is drama and conflict is life! The difficult trick is of course to discuss what has been said or done, not what the person saying or doing something is. It does not promote discussion or reaching a consensus to stamp your opponent.with "He/she is stupid", "He/she is a drama queen", "He is a man, all men are animals and always try to oppress me and other women".

Honestly I can say that in all my 42 years in first life I have only one person with whom I have an entrenched and bitter relationship. In my almost five years of SecondLife I have strangely enough succeeded in accumulating four such relationships through - from my point of view - personal attacks on myself or someone I love. I am sure that the opponent has the reversed view.

I would hate to live in a world of fake harmony and stifling pleasantness, but it would be great if we could acknowledge that conflict is healthy, beneficial, creative and absof***inglutely sane! Conflict forces us to rethink our values, find solutions, forgive and all-in-all evolve as human beings by taking a position and saying what way we want to move. By individual evolution we help the society we live in to evolve and become a better place.

My response to my own initial question is therefore a resounding, Hell no!

But the difference between me and those seeking a drama free and pleasant second life could be that they are just in it for a few hours of entertainment, while to me it actually is a second life. I´m not sure.

Blog Shut Down By Bullying

Yesterday we were reached by the sad news that PetGirl Bergman, a.k.a Tina Dahl, has decided to shut down her blog "Tinas universum" ("Tina´s Universe").

"Tina´s Universe" has been the largest Swedish SecondLife blog almost since it´s start. It has been a mighty source of information and education on all things to do with SecondLife for all Swedish noobs in-world since it´s start.

As one of the oldest Swedish avatars in SecondLife PetGirl has acted as an ambassador between the Swedish community in SecondLife and Linden Lab. She has been able to help many Swedish avatars through the red-tape at the Lab. Tina has also worked hard on establishing excellent contacts with the Swedish Institute and has  acted as a well known and highly respected ambassador to the Swedish authorities and the real life world.

Tina Dahl has always maintained a high profile in the Swedish community though her blog. through the in-world group "Swedish People in Second Life" (which she created) and through her strong and charismatic personality. Tina was without a doubt the inspiring, organizing and driving force behind many of the large events and activities that have occurred in the in-world Swedish community.

Her unrivaled position as the unofficial leader evoked much envy among smaller souls who would have preferred to have that position themselves.

During the last three years Tina has been under unrelenting pressure by a handful of Scandinavian avatars and their hangarounds who have focused an unrelenting and hateful campaign against her, on their blogs, in comments on other blogs and in-world.

It is - in my mind - not strange at all that Tina finally succumbed to this pressure and lost her inspiration to continue blogging, many of us would not have lasted as long.

I will maintain my hopes that this shut down is only temporary and therefore refuse to take leave of "Tina´s Universe" but instead will hope to wish her welcome back when she has found her strength and inspiration again. 

Recommended Reading

There is an excellent post entitled "Confirmed: Latest Second Life Drama Largely Driven by Misunderstanding, Scant Evidence (As It Usually Is)" by Wagner James Au on the blog New World Notes that everyone involved with SecondLife should take the time to read.

The post centers around the drama (non-Swedish this time) caused by Miso Susanowa and her allegations concerning a logo chosen by Linden Lab to celebrate Second Life's 8th anniversary.

Miso Susanowa claims that the logo was based on a design she originally did and was used without attribution or credit, which led to a community-wide controversy, with many calling for boycott, lawsuits, and filing DMCA notifications against the company.

I posted a comment to this post which I want to share with you here.

Excellent post, thank you!

Admittedly the Lindens make mistakes, they are only human after all, and admittedly they are not always able to respond to a problem as fast as the erratic residents of our world would wish.

Like you I believe that the overreactions among us residents more often than not lead to time and energy wasted on matters of little importance than being used to the betterment of SecondLife.

I can also wholly understand that some creative and talented people at the Lab would leave the company because of such turbulence.

We could all do better if we stopped bitching and complaining wildly all the time and instead channeled our efforts to work with and support the Lindens in improving the world we all love.

Good Advice for Kids and Others

Eric Herman tells the kids, and those of us a bit older, how to handle bad situations!

I remember seeing some "Drama spray" in my Inventory, perhaps I should start sending it out to those who need it badly!

I Am Backing Off

The hurt feelings, the upset emotions, the rehashing of memories of old wrongdoings and the constant scratching on the scabs are a formidable Gordian Knot that hurt and hamper the Swedish community in SecondLife.

For a long while I have tried to understand what it was about and even perhaps to assist in healing it. This will end now. I have now come to the realization that I was not born to bring the Alexandrian solution to this festering mess and I have better things to do with my life, my time and my limited resources of empathy, love and understanding. Especially since I now suspect that none of them really want it solved, it gives them something to do.

I am now backing off and bowing out of this. I will leave it to the involved parties themselves to solve it or die with the bitter taste of hate in their mouths. Keep me out of it!

Varför bloggar jag?

Mitt inlägg om vem som skapar drama för några dagar sedan - och reaktionerna på det - har fått mig att fundera över varför jag bloggar egentligen. 

Min närmaste vän i Second Life sade igår till mig att den sammanställning jag gjort inte framstod som objektiv eftersom "Asta " verkar helt inaktiv och oförskyllt drabbad i de händelser jag tar upp. Walle klagar i sin kommentar till inlägget på samma sak samtidigt som han grundlöst påstår att jag ingår i "Astas" inre krets. Vanadis verkar på sin blogg mest anse att jag på ett indirekt sätt försöker klämma åt, skada eller såra någon med mina "litanior" och att jag istället borde överlåta till en professionell journalist att granska det hela.

Mitt bloggande är inte ett dugg professionellt eller journalistiskt, det är snarare impressionistiskt eller möjligen expressionistiskt.  Jag bloggar om det som rör mig själv, det som berör mig, det som stör mig och det som upprör mig huvudsakligen i Second Life men även i det riktiga livet. Jag reagerar på mina högst personliga upplevelser, intryck och äventyr, men detta deklarerar jag ju tydligt redan i huvudet på bloggen. 

Jag gör aldrig någonsin anspråk på att berätta den fullständiga sanningen, däremot försöker jag berätta min sanning så ärligt och väl som jag förmår. Men bara om de saker jag känner till och själv har varit med om. Jag är ingen grävande journalist jag har inte gjort omfattande undersökningar och gått igenom alla bloggar som kan vara inblandade.

Jag tillåter dock alltid andra att ge sin version och lyssnar med respekt på vad de har att säga.

Överlag vill jag själv påstå att jag är en vänlig själ.  Jag söker sällan strid utan snarare dialog, men undviker för den sakens skull inte strid när det är nödvändigt. Mina syften är aldrig att komma åt, såra eller skada någon av mina medmänniskor eller medavatarer. Däremot tror jag ibland att det finns en nytta i att vädra smutsig byk i en konflikt. 

Beslutet att skriva inlägget kom jag till först efter att vid upprepade tillfällen ha talat med såväl huvudfigurerna i detta drama som flera av bifigurerna. Till huvudfigurerna sade jag att det var bättre att de talade direkt till varandra än genom mejl, blogginlägg eller via ombud. Till bifigurerna och ombud sade jag att alla vi som fanns omkring huvudpersonerna borde försöka lugna ner, reda ut och gjuta olja på vågorna istället för att elda på.

Eftersom jag själv upplevde att jag hade ungefär lika vänliga relationer med båda huvudpersonerna erbjöd jag att själv delta vid sådana samtal tillsammans med några få andra som de valde. Samtalen skulle kort gå igenom de oförrätter de upplevde att den andra/andre hade vållat dem för att sedan gemensamt försöka hitta ett framtida förhållningssätt som skulle innebära ett stillestånd i skyttegravskriget. 

När jag sedan såg att bråket ändå fortsatte och till slut landade i att man kallade "Asta" för en råtta blev jag uppriktigt sagt så trött, arg och förbannad att jag skrev mitt inlägg några dagar senare efter att ha lugnat ner mig. Jag är från mitt yrkesliv tillräckligt van vid konflikter för att vara medveten om att jag självklart inte skulle skriva inlägget när jag var i affekt. Inlägget var en ärlig redovisning av mina egna iakttagelser. Självklart är jag medveten om att såväl Asta som Bastian och flera av de andra inblandade är stridbara och aktiva och att massor kan ha hänt som jag inte känner till i IM, mejl eller på blogginlägg eller kommentarer som jag inte läst eller inte minns.

Idag har jag inte loggat in i Second Life, främst för att jag ville fundera i lugn och ro men också eftersom jag i min mejl fick ett meddelande som vidarebefordrats från Second Life där en av de inblandade  berättar sina motiv för att nu upplösa vårt vänskapsförhållande. Det var hedervärt av den berörde/berörda. Jag vet ännu inte om det är fler som har gjort det utan att berätta varför, det får jag upptäcka i morgon.

Jag kommer att fortsätta att blogga om det som rör, berör, stör och upprör mig. Inte så mycket för andras skull som för min egen. Det är naturligtvis tacksamt att veta att andra också läser vad jag skriver och reagerar på det, men ärligt talat är detta i huvudsak en form av ventil, egenterapi eller masturbation som jag blivit beroende av. 

Sådär, nu fick de av er som valde att läsa detta del av ännu en av mina litanior (ja, jag är långsint haha)! Skyll er själva som inte förstod att sluta i tid, jag hoppas att det inte stänkte på er.

Ha en bra dag, vi ses i Second Life imorgon!

Vem skapar drama?

Jag är lite rädd för konsekvenserna av detta inlägg men har bestämt att nu kan jag inte fega längre.

Ett stort problem för mig i detta sammanhang är att jag har vänskapliga relationer med flera av de inblandade centralgestalterna. Vid olika tillfällen har jag också försökt tala med de flesta av dem och försökt övertyga dem om nyttan av att visa besinning och behärskning.

Efter de två sista händelserna som beskrivs nedan är mitt mått nu rågat.

Det senaste året har det förekommit en hel del drama i svenska Second Life. Det har skapat stor oro och oreda inom den svenska gruppen och har tagit en otrolig massa energi som hade kunnat användas för mer konstruktiva ändamål.

Jag har en längre tid funderat över de bakomliggande mekanismerna kring dessa dramer som ständigt uppstår i just svenska Second Life, något motsvarande verkar ju inte finnas i exempelvis Second Norway.

Ännu har jag inga svar men väljer ändå att dela med mig av några av mina iakttagelser och den fråga jag ställer mig själv.

De centrala personerna som dramerna cirkulerar kring är få, även om de alla omges av sina läger av supportrar.

Asta - bloggare och ägare av den mest använda chattgruppen
Bastian - bloggare (både om sitt RL och sitt SL), simägare, klubbägare och DJ
Celeste - bloggare
Dagny - bloggare, hyresgäst och förvaltare hos Bastian
Egon - bloggare, tidigare "uteliggare" på Bastians simar
Filip - bloggare, tidigare, "uteliggare" på Bastians simar

(Haha när jag ser sammanställningen ovan skulle jag kunna förledas att tro att det handlar om en intern strid mellan bloggare, men jag tror att faktiskt inte att det är mer än en tillfällighet.)

Alla fem kan när de vill vara oerhört charmiga och verbala.

Nu övergår jag till att beskriva ett antal händelser. Jag begränsar mig till de tillfällen då jag själv har varit med eller själv har kunnat observera för att slippa förlita mig på andrahandsuppgifter. I samtliga fall frågar jag mig själv vem det är som skapar dramat. (De händelser som finns nedan är de jag just nu kommer ihåg bäst, men det finns fler.)

Om jag skulle ha beskrivit något felaktigt eller ofullständigt så rätta mig gärna.

Händelse 1
Vad som hänt dessförinnan vet jag inte men jag vaknar till när jag ser att Asta i chattgruppen meddelar Egon att frågor om det riktiga livet inte får avhandlas i gruppchatten utan skall tas i IM.

Egon reagerar starkt på detta och menar att detta är en oacceptabel begränsning av hans yttrandefrihet och handlar om diktatoriskt förtryck.

Egon får stöd i sin uppfattning av Celeste och Filip.

Asta vidhåller sin inställning och meddelar att om man inte vill acceptera denna begränsning så kan man lämna gruppen. Hon säger dessutom att om man bryter mot den regeln kommer man att bli utesluten ur gruppen.

Dagarna efteråt bloggar Celeste, Egon och Filip om det inträffade och kommenterar på varandras bloggar det inträffade, det framgår tydligt att de anser att denna regel är ett tecken på att Asta på ett otillbörligt sätt utövar sin makt som ägare av gruppen.

Händelse 2
Asta utser tre stycken moderator för att tillsammans med henne se till att inget otillbörligt sker i gruppen. Jag är en av de tre som utses.

Celeste, Egon och Filip tycker att detta är löjligt och en fullkomligt onödig åtgärd. Det framgår även av deras bloggar och deras kommentarer i chatten och på andras bloggar.

Händelse 3
I en serie av hemma hos reportage på sin blogg skildrar Asta i ett inlägg hur Egon och Filip bor hyresfritt på Bastians sim, där han dessutom har tillåtit dem att inreda ett fyrtorn för sitt boende. I inlägget tackar Egon Bastian för att han låter dem bo gratis där och säger också att alla är välkomna dit eftersom det trots allt är allmän område. (Detta förhållande var för övrigt inget okänt eftersom Egon - och även Filip tror jag - hade berättat om det på sina bloggar.)

När jag läste inlägget tyckte jag att det var en mysig beskrivning och att det var snällt av Bastian att låta dem bo på allmänningen när de ihnte hade råd med annat. Det var dock innan jag läste kommentarerna som kom strax efteråt.

Dagny kommenterar inlägget och det är tydligt att hon är mycket arg (Dagny är dålig på att dölja sina känslor - vilket är ett av hennes mest charmerande drag). Hon anser uppenbarligen att det är ett fruktansvärt övergrepp som har skett när Asta nu beskriver detta på sin blogg.

Bastian kommenterar därefter också inlägget. Det framgår att också han är upprörd och att han anser att inlägget är ett sätt att trakassera honom. Han uppger att inlägget har föregåtts av att han under flera dagar har fått frågor från Asta om varför han tillåter Egon och Filip att bo gratis på sina simar. Han avslutar med att han nu skall sätta just den simen under vatten och således göra de båda uteliggarna hemlösa. Om jag minns rätt var det här Bastian för första gången undanber sig ytterligare uppmärksamhet kring sin person och sina simar från Asta.

Dagarna efter kommentaren verkställer Bastian sitt löfte/hot.

Celeste och Egon bloggar om det hela och fäller också kommentarer i chatten. Det anses vara Astas fel att Egon och Filip nu har blivit hemlösa.

Händelse 4
Bastian skapar en egen grupp för särskilt inbjudna svenskar.(Jag har inte äran att inbjudas så det tar ett tag in jag känner till dess existens.)

Händelse 5
Asta berättar i ett inlägg att hon nu har nått maxgränsen för att få fortsätta blogga gratis på Blogger.

I en kommentar föreslår Bastian henne att hon kan ta bort alla inlägg rörande honom och hans klubb och simar för att spara utrymme.

Händelse 6
Asta är sen med att göra reklam för ett regelbundet återkommande evenemang som en klubbägare som hyr på Bastians sim har haft i flera år. Reklamen kommer dock ut en god stund innan evenemanget äger rum. Evenemanget tillkännages i vanlig ordning på gruppchatten vid flera tillfällen.

Bastian skapar en egen webbsida för tillkännagivande av evenemang i svenska Second Life. I hans klubbgrupp går meddelande ut om webbsidan och att den har lagts upp eftersom en av klubbägarna på hans simar har diskriminerats av Asta.

Den svenska klubbägaren flyttar strax därefter sin klubb från Bastians simar. Detta anses på vissa bloggar vara Astas fel.

Händelse 7
Enligt uppgift till moderatorerna från Asta har Bastian i mejl till henne undanbett sig att evenemang på hans simar fortsättningsvis tillkännages på hennes blogg eller i hennes grupp. Det verkar dock som om Bastian inte har meddelat detta till sina hyresgäster eller sin förvaltare.

När ett oregelbundet återkommande evenemang på Bastians simar tillkännages på gruppchatten i Astas grupp påmínner jag Dagny om ovanstående. Hon blir väldigt upprörd över att jag påpekar det.

Händelse 8
På sin RL blogg har Bastian följande fundering; "Hur kommer det sig att det var fel att Egon och Filip fick ”bo gratis” på mina simmar men att det samtidigt är helt ok att Asta i SL får bo gratis på simmar finansierade av skattebetalare? Är inte det konstigt? Mycket märkligt sker i Second Life, och likheten mellan SL är RL är framförallt att råttor finns det på bägge ställen"

Celeste kommenterar: "Men låt inte råttorna ta över för Guds skull… Lämnar du SL så blir storråttan nöjd och ler i mjugg. -Nej tack! Stå på dig Bastian – det är en order."

Igår upplöste Bastian sin klubbgrupp under stor uppståndelse. Han rev visst också sin klubb enligt vad som uppgavs i klubbchatten. Enligt samtalet i gruppchatten var det Asta som var anledningen till detta agerande.

OBS! Jag har ändrat namnen ovan till de pseudonymer jag har valt.

Händelse 9
Idag hade Celeste ett inlägg på sin blogg där hon utlyste en tävling. Vinnaren kunde få 1000 LD om man gissade vems bild som fanns på den t-shirt Celeste bar. (Inlägget tas bort efter en stund)

På t-shirten fanns en bild av Asta med hennes namn över bilden och texten "Bullshit stories" under den.


P.S 2010-08-14; Sanningen är illa tåld, men man måste ibland tillåta sina medmänniskor att leva med sina livslögner! (Länken på bilden nedan går till detta inlägg.)

Att min plågade medmänniska dessutom väljer att jämföra mig med den mest kände svenske böghataren i modern tid är en överloppsgärning och säger mer om honom är om mig.