In Memoriam - Ars

Haha Ars, my darling, yeah I do know you really hate boybands, but if you listen to the words you will understand why I thought this song was fitting in the light of recent events. (...and anyway I am feeling mushy and the alternative was Whitney Houston with "I will always love you", so just shut up!)

"No matter what they tell you
No matter what they do
No matter what they teach you
What you believe is true"

Six months is a short time, babe and I still miss you so very much. I always try to think of the happy times though and really I am getting better all the time, so please don´t worry about me!

Oh yeah, I got the message you sent me on monday through your friend Carson Darkstone, thanks for that sweetheart, it reached me when I needed it the most.No, babe, I am not going crazy nor did I find religion, I am just taking the liberty to interpret events as I chose!

Love you always, babe, and thanks for looking out for me!

Forever Ars, forever!
xoxoxo
Bock

New blog to be followed closely

My buddy sirhc DeSantis has a new blog "Dirty Nails ....does food".

It´s a "must read" for all of us who want to know what he will be feeding his missus, Vampi Twine-DeSantis, each day!

How to be alone - Tanya Davis

If you are at first lonely, be patient. If you’ve not been alone much, or if when you were, you weren’t okay with it, then just wait. You’ll find it’s fine to be alone once you’re embracing it.


We could start with the acceptable places, the bathroom, the coffee shop, the library, where you can stall and read the paper, where you can get your caffeine fix and sit and stay there. Where you can browse the stacks and smell the books; you’re not supposed to talk much anyway so it’s safe there.


There´s also the gym, if you’re shy, you can hang out with yourself and mirrors, you can put headphones in. Then there’s public transportation, because we all gotta go places. And there’s prayer and mediation, no one will think less if your hanging with your breath seeking peace and salvation.


Start simple. Things you may have previously avoided based on your "avoid being alone" principles. The lunch counter, where you will be surrounded by “chow downers”, employees that only have an hour and their spouses work across town, and so they, like you, will be alone. Resist the urge to hang out with your cell phone.


When you are comfortable with “eat lunch and run”, take yourself out for dinner; a restaurant with linen and silverware. You’re no less intriguing a person when you´re eating solo desert and cleaning the whip cream from the dish with your finger. In fact, some people at full tables will wish they were where you were. Go to the movies. Where it’s dark and soothing, alone in your seat amidst a fleeting community.


And then take yourself out dancing, to a club where no one knows you, stand on the outside of the floor until the lights convince you more and more and the music shows you. Dance like no one’s watching because they’re probably not. And if they are, assume it is with best in human intentions. The way bodies move genuinely to beats, is after-all, gorgeous and affecting. Dance until you’re sweating. And beads of perspiration remind you of life’s best things. Down your back, like a book of blessings.


Go to the woods alone, and the trees and squirrels will watch for you. Go to an unfamiliar city, roam the streets, there are always statues to talk to, and benches made for sitting gives strangers a shared existence if only for a minute, and these moments can be so uplifting and the conversation you get in by sitting alone on benches, might of never happened had you not been there by yourself.


Society is afraid of alone though. Like lonely hearts are wasting away in basements. Like people must have problems if after awhile nobody is dating them. But lonely is a freedom that breathes easy and weightless, and lonely is healing if you make it. You could stand swathed by groups and mobs or hold hands with your partner, look both further and farther in the endless quest for company.


But no one´s in your head. And by the time you translate your thoughts some essence of them may be lost or perhaps it is just kept. Perhaps in the interest of loving oneself, perhaps all those “sappy slogans” from pre-school over to high school´s groaning, we’re tokens for holding the lonely at bay. Cause if you’re happy in your head, then solitude is blessed, and alone is okay.


It’s okay if no one believes like you, all experience is unique, no one has the same synapses, can’t think like you, for this be relieved, keeps things interesting, life’s magic things in reach, and it doesn’t mean you aren’t connected, and the community is not present, just take the perspective you get from being one person in one head and feel the effects of it.


Take silence and respect it. If you have an art that needs a practice, stop neglecting it, if your family doesn’t get you or a religious sect is not meant for you, don’t obsess about it. You could be in an instant surrounded if you need it. If your heart is bleeding, make the best of it. There is heat in freezing, be a testament.
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This is a beautiful and touching video poem by Tanya Davis that I found through one of Jago Constantine´s blogs when I was blogsurfing this morning.

9-11

The September 11 attacks (often referred to as September 11th or 9/11) were a series of coordinated suicide attacks by al-Qaeda upon the United States on September 11, 2001. On that morning, 19 al-Qaeda terrorists hijacked four commercial passenger jet airliners. The hijackers intentionally crashed two of the airliners into the Twin Towers of the World Trade Center in New York City, killing everyone on board and many others working in the buildings. Both buildings collapsed within two hours, destroying nearby buildings and damaging others. The hijackers crashed a third airliner into the Pentagon in Arlington, Virginia, just outside Washington, D.C. The fourth plane crashed into a field near Shanksville in rural Pennsylvania after some of its passengers and flight crew attempted to retake control of the plane, which the hijackers had redirected toward Washington, D.C. There were no survivors from any of the flights.

The death toll of the attacks was 2,996, including the 19 hijackers. The overwhelming majority of casualties were civilians, including nationals of over 70 countries. In addition, there is at least one secondary death – one person was ruled by a medical examiner to have died from lung disease due to exposure to dust from the World Trade Center's collapse.

The United States responded to the attacks by launching the War on Terror: it invaded Afghanistan to depose the Taliban, who had harbored al-Qaeda terrorists. The United States also enacted the USA PATRIOT Act. Many other countries also strengthened their anti-terrorism legislation and expanded law enforcement powers. Some American stock exchanges stayed closed for the rest of the week following the attack and posted enormous losses upon reopening, especially in the airline and insurance industries. The destruction of billions of dollars worth of office space caused serious damage to the economy of Lower Manhattan. (Quote from Wikipedia)

Mourn the dead, celebrate the heroes and start building a new future with tolerance, respect and forgiveness!

We must also always remember that the terrorists are an extremely small minority in any community, religious group or society! In the words of the American president Barack Obama, "We don’t differentiate between them and us. It’s just us."

And yes in the light of this I must - and will - forgive my few enemies and wrongdoers for the petty drama they caused me and for hurting my feelings. I will accept them, I will respect them but I do not need to love them!

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P.S. Recommended reading on the blog Joe.My.God "That day". A personal eyewitness account.

Strange friends

The above is a post I found on what I thought was a friends blog. After that post she is no longer a friend of mine and never will be again.

I can never accept that a so called "friend" spits in my face like this. As soon as I get back into Second Life I am deleting the friendship cards to her and her alt. Hell I am even going to download "OutWorldz" again to take her off my friendslist there.

"Talk is cheap, Bock. Don´t judge them by what they say, judge them by their actions. Actions speak louder than words!" (Said to me by my lover and husband for more than two and a half years - whom I never had the privilege to meet in real life - Ars Northmead in a conversation early 2008.) 

No narrowminded unsensitive people are going to be allowed to set limitations to my love or my feelings!

My love does not become less because it does not follow the norm or the regulations of some petit bourgeois people. They can spend time regulting themselves and try to learn some sensitivity for others instead of trying to apply their sociopathic tendencies on me.

Bye bye Arabella

I read the news on "Tinas universum" that Arabella Steadham has been permabanned from Second Life, and am actually not upset or amazed at all but rather grateful to Linden Lab for looking out for my safety, protecting my privacy and generally covering my precious arse.

I don´t believe a word of Arabella´s rantings on her own blog "Arabella´s Amblings", that she has been permabanned for being an honest, upright and outspoken person against the dictatorial Linden Lab.

You should try "OutWorldz" now Arabella, I have read a lot of good stuff about the boring place. They really, really need some more excitement there (except for the often occuring shutdowns) have fun!

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