Friday Coma

As most Friday's I am exhausted after the work-week. I am not quite sure if it's my increasing age or the lack of sleep - or poor sleep during the week - that makes me so tired when Friday comes along.

"Exhausted, self portrait 2018" by Bock McMillan

Once upon a time Fridays used to be party time, now I just want to throw up at the thought. Ah, let's give up the pretence, I'm getting old - although the sleep thing may contribute.

Happy 10th Rezday, Kahvy!

Mr. Kahvy Smith, nee Sands, is my oldest existing friend in SecondLife.

Kahvy (left) with his husband Garrett

Although I had the honor of sharing my decade-rezday bash with him on March 18th, today is his actual 10th rezday!

Happy rezday, my very-very old friend, and I hope to be with you still when they pull the plugs to SecondLife in San Francisco.

I am going to include a message I sent to him on his 34th birthday (June 9, 2015), when he had complained to me that he then only "had another year left of being a young man".

"Kahvy, my dear friend,

Age is but a number, but always remember that ageing is mandatory but growing old is optional. You need not worry about being 35 in less than a year, because you actually have six more years until you are "old" as the official age of becoming old in the straight culture is 40.

However, on the other hand in the gay culture, you have already been old since you turned 30 as that is the official age for turning old among us gays. Enjoy the rest of your life as an old queer and get the f-u-c-k over it!

Many happy birthday wishes, my dear old friend!"

To Mr. Kahvy Smith: "You Are Already Old!"

Yesterday I had two discussions with my friend Kahvy.

The first one occurred when I logged into SecondLife and received a gesture from him. It seems we both suffer from being married to men with the same hoarding addiction, boats.

I tried it out on my sweet hubby immediately and this is the reaction I received:
[13:48] Bock McMillan shouts: "** You don't NEED another Boat!!!**"
[13:48] Tomais Ashdene shouts: "Dream on, Monkey Boy!"

I was not at all surprised by that response, and to be quite honest, I don't really mind Tomais buying every damn boat that is put up for sale in SecondLife. Kahvy confessed feeling the same way about Garrett's hoarding. We decided that both our husbands are wonderful men and this little flaw of theirs is not much to make a fuss about.

Later, about ten minutes before midnight CET, Kahvy and my local time, Kahvy got back to me and complained that he "in ten minutes would only have a year left as a young man" because today is his 34th birthday. It seems that he lives in the erroneous belief that the official age of becoming "old" is 35.

I feel the need to correct him and perhaps also sooth him, so my birthday present is this statement.

"Kahvy, my dear friend,

Age is but a number, but always remember that ageing is mandatory but growing old is optional. You need not worry about being 35 in less than a year, because you actually have six more years until you are "old" as the official age of becoming old in the straight culture is 40. 

However, on the other hand in the gay culture, you have already been old since you turned 30 as that is the official age for turning old among us gays. Enjoy the rest of your life as an old queer and get the f-u-c-k over it!

Many happy birthday wishes, my dear old friend!"

Happy 8th Rezday, Dej

[14:05:56] Dej (dejerrity.mycron): Dear Abbey:  Eight years ago today, on October 23, 2006, I read an article on the Huffington Post about a new virtual world, where you could create anything, be anything, and interact with people from every corner of the Earth.  I must have been really fucking bored that particular day, because I followed the link thinking it might be cool to build a starship.  Never once did I think that by clicking "Download" it would change my life forever.  Never once did I foresee the true friendships, the wild fun, the wacky adventures, the all night dancing, having a career managing clubs...and falling deeply in love....  SL has added a great deal to my life, and I hope that I have been able to add something to the lives of those I have met here and come to cherish, especially to those that we have lost.  When all is said and done - I think I will give it another year.  Love you always, Dej (who still doesn't look a day over 5)

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That was the message from my sweet and loving brother that greeted me when I logged in-world today.

Let me tell you, my dearest Dej, there is no doubt about how much you have added to my life and to others that I have known and still know. I love you dearly and I know for certain that if you had not been there at the time when I needed it, I would not still be in SecondLife. And I still need you, everyday. I love you, Dej, please be a part of my life always!

Happy rezday, my darling brother! The honest truth is that you barely look a day over 4, we are all wondering what lotion you are using...