Lawyers, Makeovers & Housewarmings

Well, I am feeling a bit strange today. Nothing at all has pissed me off or irked me enough to make me rant and rally in a post. All has been just humdrum in a sort of calming way.

So I´ll just go ahead and tell you about my day in SecondLife yesterday.

First of all - just to warn you silly buggers who may try to mess with me - I retained a lawyer in SecondLife yesterday. Yeah, I know I am one myself but only a bad lawyer acts on his own behalf.

My lawyer is an American and one fierce cookie I can tell you from the start. She is totally fearless and protects my ass like a lioness protects her cubs. Hell, I even had to stop her from slamming a restraining order on some people for looking at me weirdly the other day. (Note-to-self, remember to pay her 1 L$ when you get in-world, so she doesn´t try to weasel her way out of our attorney-client relationship.)

A good part of the afternoon I spent giving Matt McMillan, nee Gaboian, a well needed makeover. Matt is an alt I use in the Tiny Empires-game. Although he is an alt of mine by some freakish accident he has turned out to be straight, the poor man. Well I started off by giving him my shape with a few minor differences and then he got new skin, new hair, new eyes and a brand new tartan. The tartan was from Elle74 Zaftig of course, nothing but the best would do!

This is what he looked like as a Linden-noob and here he is after the makeover. It´s a big improvement I think.

Later that evening I was invited to a friends housewarming party. It was Ewa Aska who had built a new house for herself, she is an awesome builder in SecondLife. The house was beautiful but the coolest thing was the dance floor, I thought, we danced over flamingos and crocodiles. You can see it here in a picture I stole from Blanche Argus´s blog (please note the capital B in Blanche).

The other guests at the party were mostly from the Tara Hill-collective, so I was left pretty much to myself except for the "Hi´s" and "Bye´s".

I had a few clarifying IMs during the party though. I managed to tell a woman I had been pissed with her but that it was passing now and also a guy that I had never been pissed with him just with a female friend of his, but that that was also passing now. And finally I managed to talk nicely with another friend whom I hadn´t met for a while, to her I was quite pleasant I think, no bitching at all - would you believe it?

There you go, parts of my day all summed up in one post, and those were the interesting parts.

A Grown Man Playing with Dolls...

Hilarious! I found this on Joe.My.God.

What, Me Worry?

Sometimes I think it´s just me, other times I think it´s everyone else.

I didn´t really realize I was a worrier until Ars told me so. When he did I protested vehemently and told him I was no such thing. I told him, "I do what I want to do and say what I want to say and to hell with anyone who tries to stop me."

"Sure", he said, "that´s just it. You don´t worry about yourself, but you worry about everyone and everything else. Look at how you fuss about Guyke and his love life. He is a man, he can take care off himself and when he cannot he will come to us if he needs it.He knows where to find us. And then look how you think and talk about Martial and Andrey after they dropped out of SecondLife. People leave SecondLife for many reasons, babe. They don´t always have to be run over by buses or killed in Brazilian street-fights not to log in and say good bye to you before they leave. They just leave and don´t look back - at-least not for a while."


My response was, "But Ars we loved them, they told us they loved us and we knew them for a long time, is it wrong of me to wonder why they leave with no word of goodbye?" Ars answered, "No babe, that´s why I love you, you care about other people and me and our son, But you really don´t have to carry it that far. Look at Haakon, he left us after saying goodbye and all, still you worry about him. What he´s doing or if he has friends taking care of him. Just drop it, he is a grown man also and can take care of himself, I am sure."

I dunno why I worry for other people sometimes, but Ars was right there, I do do that,.whenever I think people are being mistreated. or wronged or just disrespected.

Hell I cannot save the world but I can look out for the people that are close to me or react and take action at aggression or bullying I see going on in front of me or around me. It´s the only way I know how to deal with such things.

But yes, I should heed Ars advice and not worry about things I cannot do anything about and also let grown people take responsibilty for their own choices and actions. Perhaps that should be my new years resolution, good thing I have a few days to think about it...

Well something good came out of my worrying. Ars told his sisters his I am a worrier and therefore instructed them to tell me everything that was going on, because otherwise I would just worry about it. I am grateful to him and love him for it. if his sisters hadn´t been so forthcoming with information I really would have gone completely berserk those last few weeks and days before Ars passed away.

Another from Mauro

If it´s O.K with you, it´s O.K with me
Tonight I'll take off my ring
If it´s O.K with you, it´s O.K with me
Nobody has to know anything

Eva was six feet tall, visiting from Göteborg
She stood and squinted against the sun on a Sunday at Norrmalmstorg
She asked me about the way to somethin' gallery, I did not know
I said, art may well wait, we can go for a walk instead if you want
She was a natural beauty of a kind not often seen
So we went to the Opera bar, ordered a gin tonic and sat down

She said: I have a husband and children at home, they don´t know where I am
Oh this is certainly something I will regret, but I will not think about it ...

If it´s O.K with you, it´s O.K with me
Tonight I'll take off my ring
If it´s O.K with you, it´s O.K with me
Nobody has to know anything

After the first drink, I ordered another two
I said, we are both adults, we both know what we want
She asked about me, so I told her just as it is
Although I have a relationship it isn´t particularly good

Well I said, I have wife and children at home, they don´t know where I am
Oh this is certainly something I will regret, but I will not think about it ... 

If it´s O.K with you, it´s O.K with me
Tonight I'll take off my ring
If it´s O.K with you, it´s O.K with me
Nobody has to know anything

If it´s O.K with you, it´s O.K with me
Tonight I'll take off my ring
If it´s O.K with you, it´s O.K with me
Nobody has to know anything

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Nah I am not promoting adulterous affairs, it´s just me and Mauro hitting it off again!

Thought of the Day I

Condescension has many faces, all are ugly!

Can´t Find My Way Home

Steve Winwood and Eric Clapton

Nakna avatarer i SL - the end

The publication of the winner of the contest on Christmas Day was the end of the project "Nakna avatarer i SL" ("Nude Avatars in SecondLife") so it is now a time for an evaluation.

As far as the art part of the project, I think it is safe to say it was a huge success. Never in my wildest dreams did I anticipate to receive beautiful, touching, imaginative and humorous contributions from over a hundred avatars. I sincerely love them all - for very different reasons. It is also my belief that the project may have entertained you all in some small way.

As for the peace part of the project I - at least for a short while - saw some glimmerings of hope and reconciliation among us Swedes in SecondLife. Sadly that did not last for long or even til the end of the project. The fractions are now entrenched and mostly no longer communicating at all. The peace part of the project must therefore be considered a total and miserable failure.

This failure should of course in no way prevent myself or anyone else from trying again in the future.

All in all, I had great fun working with this and that at a time when I badly needed the distraction. I also got many new contacts with interesting, strong, visionary and idealistic people. We are no longer strangers to each other - and that is always a good thing.

Knowing others always means it is harder to disrespect or dislike them. The best things is it works both ways, it is also harder for them to disrespect or dislike you. Getting to know one another gives us color, depth and perspective of each other. We see or can sense the other person´s point of view easier, clearer or better and that is how great friendships start.

There is still hope, I´ll be happy with that for the moment.