It's My Twelfth Rezday!

Today is my 12^th rezday and I am taking the day off from SecondLife as I have a  terrible headache. I hope you are celebrating it all the same.

This is a picture to show y'all what I looked like on Saturday, December 8^th, 2007.  

Evander Milena, Ars Northmead (who was later to become my husband) and I
on the far right. I was a brunette those days because all blond hair was yellow.

The photo was taken at Ars' skybox, the pictures in the background are of him with his head shaved.   

Five Years Ago

First kiss in public

Second kiss in public

These two pictures were taken on this day five years ago by our (then) friend Evander Milena. They were taken at the Sarco Sound Grounds (SSG to those of us who used it) at the Ninth Wave Island-sim.

They show Ars and mine two first kisses in public, or rather in front of our friends. I was the one who insisted on two pictures because of the stupid girly-pose. Today I wouldn't have minded at all.

As you can see, already at that time I had my penchant for cargo pants in SecondLife...

Friends or Players?

"Three Brothers" (Evander, Ars and Bock) by Evander M.

This picture was taken on December 8, 2007, shortly before Ars and I became an item. Evander M., the photographer, was one of the "Three E´s" that I have mentioned a few times before. At that time he was a good friend of mine and my landlord.

Even if I hadn't seen the date in the properties of the snapshot I would have guessed it was late in 2007, because we are all in hair from Naughty Designs - the only place you could get decent hair from if you had any taste and didn't want to walk around in ugly hair from Badazz.

Evander and his wife ElenaS. M. had a campaign going to expose Ars to my lovely personality as often and as much as possible because they both knew that was infatuated by Ars. I had told Elena and Elena had told Evander - or so we thought at the time. This day Evander had taken me to Ars home in Moa for a visit.

According to the stories Elena and Evander were spreading among all of us in the Sarco Sound group they were a young Dutch couple who had recently been blessed with a wonderful baby boy. Elena was mostly online as she was home with the baby the first months after his birth, while Evander only came in on evenings and night. Suddenly they brought in "their good friend Emile" and started introducing him to us all. Emile was allegedly gay or bi-curious or whatever.

When this happened I heard mention of the word "alt" for the very first time. I think it was Guyke or Ars who explained to me what that meant, even if I really did not understand the concept. It was said that Emile was an alt of Elena created to get even closer to some of us. Somebody called the bluff and it became a funny thing. I am not sure if any of the others at that time believed that Evander and Elena were the same person, but I certainly had no idea until a few months later.

Early in 2008, after Ars and I had moved in together at Southern Charm, "the three E´s" suddenly decided to kill off Elena in her "first life". The young mother was allegedly killed by being run over by a drunk driver when she was out on the town. I was completely devastated over the bad fortune that had befallen my dear friends and the young family. This lasted for a couple of weeks, when we started being reached by rumors that all three of them were the same Dutch man who was playing a game with us.

Somehow some of the tech-savvy of our little group got this confirmed and the uproar over the deceit was total. I was especially upset by the cruelty of letting us believe that Elena had been killed and the commiseration we had shown for Evander during the long weeks that followed that news.

Even if I should have learned a lesson from this, even now I rarely suspect or believe that anyone is using alts to manipulate and play games with me. I just don't want to believe that about my fellow man.

Ars + Bock = ❤

Our first kiss in public

This day a year ago, on February 12th 2010, my partner in SecondLife since more than two years made me a very happy man when he proposed to me.I of course immediately accepted the proposal.

At this time my Ars and I had been together for more than two years. We had often joked about SL-marriages, the big wedding ceremonies after only knowing one another just a few weeks followed by bitter divorces a month or so afterwards, only to be followed again by a new "true love", a new marriage and a new divorce etc. etc.

In spite of all our joking I had been contemplating "popping the question" to Ars for awhile, but hadn't yet mustered the courage to do so. Not for fear he didn't love me, but just because we had joked too much about it I guess... and what the hell, it was all going great for us even without the formalities...

This was one of our happiest days in SecondLife, little did we know at the time that Ars (or rather the real man Doug) would pass away a month later.

The picture I am using in this post is actually a snapshot of a picture that I had unfortunately deleted after mounting it on a prim. It shows another happy day, when we first went public with our love to our friends. It was taken at SSG ("the Sarcosound grounds") by Evander Milena, in November 2007.

If it had not been for Evanders so-called wife (who later turned out to in fact be his alt) Elena I am not sure I would have ever have dared to finally start talking with Ars. For that I will always be thankful to "the infamous three E´s", as we later called them. Evander, Elena and Emile were a group of alt´s that for a long time had me and my friends totally fooled.

I was imagining this post would be easy to write, because it was a happy occasion. As it turned out it stirred up many thought and emotions that made it more difficult. Nevertheless this will be a happy day, I have made up my mind.

Note-to-self: Never delete any pictures evermore, if you feel the need to remove them from your inventory box them up instead!