Finally Someone Agrees!

I expect nothing less from the most patient man in the world.

— Nathan G (@nwg83) August 25, 2018

Patient & Humble, Who Can Ask For More?

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Long Wait for Tomais

I must say, that Tomais is indeed extremely fortunate to have me for his husband in SecondLife as I am The Most Patient Man in SecondLife, everyone tells me so - often and repeatedly.

39 minutes ago he promised that he would log in in 30 minutes, I have now been in here and waited - extremely patiently as always - for nine (9) minutes. No Tomais to be seen anywhere inworld...

(Please note: I never told you that I am not passive-aggressive.)

Conceited Much?

"AC 4 - Conceited as hell" by Pwnchy

This is a what actually came out of my mouth at a photoshoot today, when I was modelling in a picture with my husband Tomais Ashdene, the second most patient man in SecondLife.

"Well, maybe I should take my face lights off, because right now my radiant beauty attracts most of the attention in the picture. Wouldn't you agree?"

Tomais agreed.

A Day to Remember

Six months ago today, Mr. Tomais Ashdene, talented photographer, stunningly handsome man and all-around good guy, made me the happiest man in SecondLife by accepting my proposal of marriage.

"We" (meaning I, the most patient man in SecondLife) couldn't wait a minute longer, so we got married straight away!

This is a picture my romantic Tomais posted on my timeline on Facebook a
while back (two Facebook accounts ago I believe.) Need I explain more?

Tomais has miraculously kept making me the happiest man in SecondLife every day since then!

I love you so much my darling, more and more for every day that passes by!

Happy six month anniversary, lover!

Waiting for an Orca (Updated)

So here we are, the two of us! We have been hanging around here for the last 45 minutes for the damned Orca to come by again.

Tomais happened to see it pass by behind us when we first got here, now the silly thing doesn't want to come back or has perhaps decided that it is camera shy.My hubby is indeed extremely fortunate to be married to The Most Patient man in SecondLife, everyone always tells me that.

The extremely silly orca

Bock McMillan shouts: "You silly animal, you need to come over and go behind the pillars to our left. Is that so difficult to understand?"

Despite the fact that I kept shouting directions to the stupid animal it simply wouldn't cooperate. I thought I would have to have a serious talk with Toby Atlass about his animal training. However, I finally found a way to control the direction it should move in by thumping it on the snout, so now Tomais tells me I should add "Orca Whisperer" to all my other titles and accomplishments.

Update May 12, 2014
And here is the final results of all my hanging around and thumping on orcas.

"Pisces" Photography by Tomais Ashdene

Unexpected Visitors

While my brother Dej was away from his keyboard yesterday - eating, sleeping or hooking up with some able bodied man on Grindr - as usual leaving his avatar parked on his western porch, he had two unexpected visitors.

The visitors were two draft horses of tall stature, heavy boned and a muscular build, with broad, short backs and powerful hindquarters that showed they were extremely well equipped for pulling.

I am curiously  checking what Internet porn Dej's avatar is looking at

Tom, who has loads of animal avatars in his Inventory, had shown Guyke and me where to buy a puppy avatar and two horse avatars, one a draft horse and the other one an Arabian thoroughbred. As the hour was late European time Guyke left us and Tom and I returned to Southern Charm alone to unpack my loot.

I had promised Guyke that we would unpack the horse avatars together, but in my excitement I couldn't stop myself after having customised my puppy, with Tom's help, so feeling a little ashamed I went ahead with the drafter but saved the thoroughbred for unpacking together with Guyke. (I hope you can forgive me, Guykechen!)

When we were all done I wanted to show off my new avatar to Dej. We went over to the northwest corner to where Dej was sitting, but as I have already told you he was alas AFK. Instead I took a few pictures to show him later on.

Tom and I moved on to the barn to meet and greet with my bulldog Bilbo, who was quite pleased with some company as I have neglected him a bit lately. The three of us had a nice time and chatted away awhile until we all felt that we needed to get some sleep.

/dramaomg

*Bock McMillan runs around in circles while flapping his arms. A shrill voice shouts "Oh My God" repeatedly and in local chat you read: "OMG! OMG! OMG! OMG! OMG! OMG! OMG! OMG! OMG! OMG! OMG! OMG! OMG! OMG! OMG! OMG! OMG! OMG! OMG! OMG! OMG! OMG! OMG! OMG! OMG! OMG! OMG! OMG! OMG! OMG! OMG! OMG!OMG! OMG! OMG! OMG! OMG! OMG! OMG! OMG! OMG! OMG! OMG! OMG! OMG! OMG! OMG! OMG! OMG! OMG! OMG! OMG! OMG! OMG! OMG! OMG! OMG! OMG! OMG! OMG! OMG! OMG! OMG! OMG! OMG! OMG! OMG! OMG! OMG!*

The reasons for this reaction are twofold. Firstly for having missed a blog post that my dear buddy Ziggy Starsmith posted on his blog yesterday announcing that he and his husband in first life Larz Kas celebrated their twentieth anniversary, Ziggy On The Edge Of Second Life: My 20th Anniversary In Real Life: Larz Kas and Ziggy Starsmith. Secondly because I have formerly claimed to be the most patient man in both worlds (because everyone always keep telling me so). However, I realized that I must officially concede to having been defeated for the title by Larz Kas.

Lars has successfully survived living with the rebellious and ranting Ziggy for the last 20 years! Admittedly Ziggy is a kind, loving and wildly charming man, but Larz must still truly be the most patient man in both lives!

My sincere congratulations to both of you men for the first twenty years and my very best wishes for the next twenty!

(/dramaorg is the trigger you type in local chat to set off the gesture I am describing in the beginning of this post.)

While I Was Waiting for Dejerrity

I haven´t seen or spoken with my brother in-law Dej since we met at Second Pride. Partly because I haven´t been in-world that much due to the spell of fatigue, but partly also because of the time difference. So when I got an IM from him relayed to my e-mail during the the night before yesterday telling me he needed to talk with me, I decided to see if I could connect with him yesterday around noon SLT.

As soon as I logged in-world I saw his yellow dot lighting up the southeast corner of the sim on my mini-map and thought to myself, "Good, he is here!" After flying over to his house I found him lying at his new favorite spot. I greeted him, but got no response so I assumed he was away from his keyboard for some reason and sat down to wait for his return. Like many others in SecondLife, Dej often leaves himself parked in-world while he runs errands, works, eats, naps or whatever other reason he may have to occupy him in first life.

"What shall I do while I wait?", I wondered. As everyone knows I have a reputation of being "the most patient man in SecondLife". Everyone tells me that constantly and even if they do not always come straight-out and say it, I am convinced that they think it.

So after standing around a few minutes I decided to pass the time with a cigarette, thinking he would surely be back from whatever he was doing when I returned. No such luck though, he still wasn't there when I returned after seven minutes. My restlessness started creeping up on me and I thought that perhaps I should do something else while I waited, but I could not decide on anything so in the end I turned on the music and sat down by the camp fire. I also sent him an IM hoping that he would come to his computer when he heard the sound of the incoming IM.

Another few minutes went by without a reaction. I looked around the place of the camp fire and noticed that Dej had changed the textures on the pillows. it looked much better than before. I also noticed that he had laid out stepping stones to the little island behind me so that one could walk across without getting ones feet wet (Well, that was what would have happened in first life but not in SecondLife).

There was still no sign of activity so I turned on the music and sat down to wait a bit more. Waiting is not a thing I am good at, as Ars often liked to point out to me. "OK", I thought, "he may have gone to the store to get some food and condoms. Be patient, he will soon be back."

Sitting there, listening to the music, my eyes passed across the suitcase symbol at the bottom of my screen indicating my Inventory. "Good, there is a long overdue task I can occupy myself with", I told myself and looked at the number telling me I had more than 22,000 items in it.

Clearing Inventory is a delicate matter that needs thought and consideration and should not be done hastily. So I attacked the task at hand by starting with the system folders.

Animations folder was easy to sort, there were not that many and I knew which ones I did not want to keep anymore.
Body Parts folder was a bit trickier, because there were a lot of stuff I did not wanted to trash, for sentimental reasons. I also sorted some stuff into the different folders here for Skin, Shape, Eyes, Hair, Penises etc and other categories.
Calling Cards folder, I left untouched, especially after a previous experience where I had deleted a card by mistake (Cross my heart and hope to die!) and the other person was so pissed with me that she refused to renew our friendship.

Lastly - on this occasion - I started on the Clothing folder. I knew pretty well which stuff I did not like at all and would never ever under any circumstances use, those were deleted. The ones I was unsure of I left alone to take a look at another time.

Doing this took me about an hour and a half - without any sign from by brother in-law. I plan to go on with it next time I have some time over. I reduced my Inventory with 1,500 items with this operation alone. Imagine how much shit is still hiding in the other nine system folders, not to mention the user folders. I should think I could bring my Inventory down to 6,000-7,500 items.

So thank you Dej, sweetie, for not being there, but I still hope to see you next time I log in!

Apmel Made Me Do It

This picture is just to prove that the Swedish blogger, my bosom buddy and enfant terrible, Apmel Goosson is spreading damned lies in his post  "My Avatars Name Is Apmel; More People Are Jumping On The Trend".

This was the one I was going to post when Apmel F-O-R-C-E-D me to get naked to promote his and Kandinsky Beaumont´s event on Solace Island on Sunday. I feel cheapened and exploited. Do not believe the horrible mans lies! (OK, I admit I was not hard to convince but anyway...)

It is well known in both lives that I am the most patient man in SecondLife, everyone tells me so all the time! It is not yet widely known that I am also in fact one of the shyest avatars in existence.

There is a lesson to be learned from this everyone; "Don´t trust the straight guys, they only want our bodies!"


...and yes you are correct in believing this post is grossly exaggerated...

On Moderation of Comments

Photo by Nam in Geum

I always like to tell people "I am the most patient man in SecondLife, absolutely everyone tells me so!" Those who know me well and love me - like my Ars, Guyke, Andrey and perhaps Millimina also - laugh in my face when I say this because they of course know damn well it is as far from the truth as you can get.

All the same I still persevere in telling all and sundry this as soon as I can possibly squeeze it into a conversation, in the vain hopes that someone who has known me longer than 15 minutes will one day agree.

The last week I myself  feel I have shown an amazing restraint that would rightfully make me entitled to truthfully keep on stating that I am in fact am the the most patient man. Alas no one seems to have noticed...

The Swedish SecondLife bloggers have been... hmmm... "discussing" the question of whether they - and everyone else - should use pre-moderation or post-moderation/reactive moderation on the comments made on a blog. There are of course valid reasons for each approach. I found an excellent summary here "Everything in Moderation - On Four Types of Moderation".

On my blog I have lately chosen to switch to post-moderation/reactive moderation primarily because I have had no experience with any misuse by commenters and I believe that a free flow of opinions between the commenters is of vital importance.

It is my personal opinion that it must be the choice of each blogger which type of moderation they choose. This choice must of course always take into account the experiences the blogger has had earlier, for instance it is well known that the Swedish blogger PetGirl Bergman with her blog Tinas universum has is the not-to-distant past had problems with defamatory personal attacks on herself and on others by anonymous or signed commenters.

Photo by Natalia Luzuriaga

The Swedish bloggers war was raised another notch when my bosom-buddy Apmel Goosson, the enfant terrible of Swedish SecondLife with the oldest Swedish SecondLife blog "Min avatar heter Apmel" (My Avatars Name is Apmel) the other day stated that he would link differently to blogs that used pre-moderation.

This decision by Apmel caused one blogger to stop blogging altogether and another blogger to express hurt feelings on being negatively discriminated against by not receiving the same exposure as post-moderated blogs.

It is my firm belief that every blogger has the prerogative to choose not only which blogs he wants to link to or not to link to, but also how he wishes to link to them as long as it isn´t done in a derogatory or defamatory way. There is no human rights issue involved in this, nor is it an infringement on anyones freedom of speech or expression.

I have actually kept myself a bit distant from these discussions where I have many opinions, in a way that is totally unlike me in these situations, so thats why I believe I now deserve at least a plaque or  medal telling the world that I am indeed the most patient man in SecondLife.

(The pictures on this post were chosen solely for their beauty and calmness so as to sooth any hurt feelings of my readers.)